Advice for men on how to impress and get the girl
Let’s face it: trying to navigate the dating scene as a single guy in America isn’t exactly a walk in the park these days. Dating can be a lot of hard work, and oftentimes, you’re not meeting the right kinds of people at bars and clubs if you’re looking for a serious relationship.
To make matters worse, according to a recent Harris Interactive survey, one in four Americans said that they are most likely to fail at in-person dating (meeting someone at a bar, event, club, etc.), because they just don’t go out enough. Additionally, one in five people said that they are too nervous to talk to someone they’re interested in, and men are much more likely than women to be nervous in this situation.
So, given these (seemingly dire!) circumstances, what’s a guy to do?
The good news is that hope is not all lost. There are a couple of simple, yet very important, tips based off of years of experience after traveling all over the world and meeting many different kinds of women that guys can follow to improve the likelihood of establishing a real bond with someone—or, at the very least, have a memorable, exciting and fun date.
- try online dating
- engage a woman in person
- be confident and secure
- move at your own pace
- be closed-minded
- take over the date
- trash your exes
Do try online dating
First, why not practice the art of conversation online through engaging in dating websites? In this increasingly digital age, dating online is a very common activity. It eliminates the nerves that come with physical attraction when immediately faced with your potential paramour and gives you a better understanding of a person before actually meeting her. Most importantly, it also reveals whether or not you have something in common before bringing physicality into the mix. Believe it or not, you can actually learn a lot about a woman from the way in which she expresses herself and her ideas through her writing and photos.
Do engage a woman in person
Once you do meet a woman in person, make sure to engage her during the entire date by making eye contact, listening and asking questions that show you are paying attention and interested in what she has to say.
Do be confident and secure
Exude confidence and be sure of yourself, but be careful not to come across as cocky or overbearing. You don’t need to brag about all of your accomplishments; women will get a sense of everything that you have achieved throughout your life as they learn more about you, and they will definitely appreciate the humility that came along with it.
Do move at your own pace
Don’t be afraid to move at your own pace, but keep the lines of communication open with your partner. It’s perfectly acceptable to express yourself when something is moving too fast instead of simply ending it all together.
Do not be closed-minded
When it comes to meeting different kinds of women, be open to meeting people who are different from you. After all, you can learn a lot from someone who has unique opinions, perspectives and worldviews. Don’t have such narrow criteria for a relationship that you make it impossible for women to meet your standards right off the bat.
Do not rush
Don’t rush into anything on the first date. Dating is supposed to be fun, and part of the fun is getting to know someone new. Think of the first date as a first chapter in a book, and end it with a cliffhanger: make her want to see you again to learn more things about you and feel excited to get to know you on a deeper level.
Do not take over the date
Don’t dominate the conversation. Let her talk. Let her ask you questions. Show her that you care about getting to know her just as much as she cares about getting to know you.
Do not trash your exes
If there’s one indication of how women will be treated in their future relationships, it’s how potential significant others speak about their exes. You don’t have to dive into all of the details surrounding why your past relationships ended, but you can still have respect for people whom you’ve dated if they do come up in the conversation. Women will appreciate that you still had nice things to say about past girlfriends even if the relationships didn’t end up working out.
Whether you’re trying to establish a connection with a woman online or offline, it’s important to remember to keep an open mind and try to understand as much as you can about her to find out whether or not the two of you are truly compatible. When it all comes together, you’ll know it—until then, be patient, and follow these do’s and don’ts on how to get the girl to increase your chances of finding the one.